Suffering in Silence: Ministering (Part 3) – Reach Out to Help

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Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2

“I have shewed you all things, how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak…” Acts 20:35

 “Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love…” Romans 12:10

“Remember them…which suffer adversity, as being yourselves also in the body.” Hebrews 13:3

As Christians, we are to follow the example of Christ by willingly serving others (Philippians 2:7). Our relationships in this life, both with other Christians and with the lost, are to be characterized by charity, kindness, brotherly love, and any of the other virtues that we would want bestowed upon us in our time of need (Luke 6:31). Sometimes, in our service through the ministries of the church, we look for ways to help behind the scenes. (Who puts up the seasonal decorations you see when you come in for services? Who cleans the nursery or the bathrooms? Who vacuums the hallways or changes the lightbulbs?) These areas of service are necessary and important to the work of the church, and those who do them should not be overlooked when we are giving out our thanks. Investing in others, however, will often require that our service literally become more hands-on! No matter what our insecurities or fears, we must reach out to offer support to those who are grieving loss. Continue reading “Suffering in Silence: Ministering (Part 3) – Reach Out to Help”

Suffering in Silence: Ministering (Part 1) – Recognize Their Loss

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“I lost my first baby in mid April. I dreaded Mother’s Day that year for obvious reasons. A very kind mother/grandmother from church came to talk to me…she told me that I was still a mother though I didn’t have a child on earth. Sometimes, just one person truly acknowledging your grief can comfort you in ways unexplainable. I will forever be grateful.” ~~A Miscarriage Mommy~~

“I would like others to know that it’s OK to say something about my son and that you won’t hurt me by talking about him; actually quite the opposite. It is nice to know that he is remembered by others.”  ~~A Stillbirth Mommy~~

“For me 7 years later, having people bring up (my son), not pretend it never happened, is healing.”  ~~An Infant Loss Mommy~~

The words you read above came from three different mothers I know who have lost children, and they echo the sentiments I have read and heard from so many others. The first step in beginning to minister to those who are grieving the loss of a child is to recognize their loss. Whether they miscarried early in their first trimester, brought a “sleeping” baby into this world, or gave birth to a child only to lose him months later, all of these mothers lost something. They lost a precious, specially designed creation of God. Continue reading “Suffering in Silence: Ministering (Part 1) – Recognize Their Loss”