Suffering in Silence: Ministering (Part 3) – Reach Out to Help

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Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2

“I have shewed you all things, how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak…” Acts 20:35

 “Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love…” Romans 12:10

“Remember them…which suffer adversity, as being yourselves also in the body.” Hebrews 13:3

As Christians, we are to follow the example of Christ by willingly serving others (Philippians 2:7). Our relationships in this life, both with other Christians and with the lost, are to be characterized by charity, kindness, brotherly love, and any of the other virtues that we would want bestowed upon us in our time of need (Luke 6:31). Sometimes, in our service through the ministries of the church, we look for ways to help behind the scenes. (Who puts up the seasonal decorations you see when you come in for services? Who cleans the nursery or the bathrooms? Who vacuums the hallways or changes the lightbulbs?) These areas of service are necessary and important to the work of the church, and those who do them should not be overlooked when we are giving out our thanks. Investing in others, however, will often require that our service literally become more hands-on! No matter what our insecurities or fears, we must reach out to offer support to those who are grieving loss. Continue reading “Suffering in Silence: Ministering (Part 3) – Reach Out to Help”

Suffering in Silence: Ministering (Part 2) – Realize Their Struggle

woman-crying11It was a beautiful fall morning in my classroom. My 3rd-5th grade students were busily putting their homework into their assigned baskets and getting their supplies ready for class to begin. Just before we officially began the day, someone popped into the classroom to say, “Pray for Mrs. X. She is at the hospital now and will hopefully have the baby soon.” One of her older children was in our class, and we were all excited to meet this new member of the family. There was an extra special excitement in the air now. We said our pledges, and I bowed my head to lead the class in prayer. I asked the Lord to bless our day and keep our minds focused on what we needed to learn. I began to pray for the mother in labor with her precious baby, and that is when I lost it. With a very shaky voice and eyes filling with tears, I quickly ended the prayer. I hurried to the door and closed it behind me, barely making it out before the tears began to flow freely. My baby would have been due in a matter of weeks! Continue reading “Suffering in Silence: Ministering (Part 2) – Realize Their Struggle”

Suffering in Silence: Ministering (Part 1) – Recognize Their Loss

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“I lost my first baby in mid April. I dreaded Mother’s Day that year for obvious reasons. A very kind mother/grandmother from church came to talk to me…she told me that I was still a mother though I didn’t have a child on earth. Sometimes, just one person truly acknowledging your grief can comfort you in ways unexplainable. I will forever be grateful.” ~~A Miscarriage Mommy~~

“I would like others to know that it’s OK to say something about my son and that you won’t hurt me by talking about him; actually quite the opposite. It is nice to know that he is remembered by others.”  ~~A Stillbirth Mommy~~

“For me 7 years later, having people bring up (my son), not pretend it never happened, is healing.”  ~~An Infant Loss Mommy~~

The words you read above came from three different mothers I know who have lost children, and they echo the sentiments I have read and heard from so many others. The first step in beginning to minister to those who are grieving the loss of a child is to recognize their loss. Whether they miscarried early in their first trimester, brought a “sleeping” baby into this world, or gave birth to a child only to lose him months later, all of these mothers lost something. They lost a precious, specially designed creation of God. Continue reading “Suffering in Silence: Ministering (Part 1) – Recognize Their Loss”

Suffering in Silence: Did You Know?

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Did you know that 2,000 women in the United States will suffer a pregnancy or infant loss today! Yes, just today! By the end of this year, the number of those affected will rise to nearly 700,000 – or 25% of the female population of the United States!! [1. http://archive.wired.com/geekdad/2011/10/national-pregnancy-and-infant-loss-awareness-day-i-am-1-in-4/%5D Think about that for minute. 25%!! According to these statistics, one out of every four of the women in your circle of friends and family is likely to face this pain! Continue reading “Suffering in Silence: Did You Know?”

Suffering in Silence: My Story

th_ribbon“Well, you seem like a very strong person.” With that statement, she fought back her own emotion, threatening to reveal itself, and uncomfortably ducked into another room, leaving me standing in shock as I muttered, “I try to be.” I think she really was trying to be kind, but her words stung.  Was I chosen to go through this because I was strong? Why was I the one that had to be strong again when others never had to go through this at all? If I really were that strong, why did this hurt so much? Was it supposed to hurt less because I was strong? There were a lot of questions during those long, dark days. There were days that I didn’t want to be strong; I just wanted life to go back to “normal.” I wanted to wake up and realize that this was all just a horrible dream: I wanted my baby back! Continue reading “Suffering in Silence: My Story”