While browsing through Instagram recently, I came across this picture.
I knew that October has been designated as “Pastor Appreciation Month,” but I had no idea that someone had chosen March to honor pastor’s wives.
Having grown up in a pastor’s home, I know that the role of a pastor’s wife is often filled with joy and heartache, blessings and burdens, triumphs and trials. Pastor’s wives come in all shapes and sizes. All live with the knowledge that God has called their husbands to minister to people who are broken, bruised, and battered. Some wives handle this pressure better than others. Some choose to withdraw: they figuratively build a brick house around themselves and their children. They believe that they can shelter their family from the hurt that hurting people often inflict. In retreating, however, they fail to build meaningful, lasting relationships and often cause some of the same hurt they are trying to avoid! Other pastor’s wives choose to look beyond the potential hurts and, instead, reach out in love! These ladies have learned from the example of our Saviour who loved us enough to offer Himself as a sacrifice for our sin “while we were yet sinners.” (Romans 5:8) He knew the pain we would cause Him, but he chose to forgive and to love anyway! Hallelujah!
I would encourage you to take a moment this month to be an encouragement to your pastor’s wife. Give her a small gift, bake her a loaf of bread or a batch of cookies, or just write her a note. If she has done something that is a blessing to you, tell her! If she is one who has chosen to withdraw, love her anyway! She may be carrying a burden or hurt that your kindness will help to heal!!
Let us all learn from the example of our loving, forgiving Saviour and reach out in love!